The Anxious-Avoidant Escape Plan

If your relationship gets stuck in the same loop — one person reaches harder while the other shuts down or pulls away — this printable toolkit gives you practical language for the moment before escalation. Inside you’ll find a cycle map, nervous-system reset cards, trigger translator, 20-minute de-escalation script, anxious-leaning and avoidant-leaning scripts, pause agreements, repair conversation templates, text-message bridges, and a seven-day practice plan.

This is not a theory-only attachment guide. It is a hands-on de-escalation kit for couples and individuals who want calmer words, clearer pauses, and more repair after conflict. Educational use only; not therapy, crisis support, or a safety plan for abusive or coercive relationships.